"Daddy, you're stupid." With both of our jaws dropped in disbelief behind the comment, my husband and I immediately scolded Layla for using these words. Where did she hear that? Neither of us even use the phrase especially when referring to other people. Did she hear it at her daycare amongst the kids, or perhaps on television? Either way, this is one bad habit we don't want her picking up.
I spent quite a bit of time trying to figure out which of the television programs she watches may use that phrase. But all of her shows are educational and provide life lessons. I cannot for the life of me imagine that Peppa Pig, Bubble Guppies, Little Einstein's, or Paw Patrol use such an expression. Then again, over the last week or so, she's picked up some interesting bad habits like shoving on the playground, being overly bossy and refusing to share, but that's just terrible twos behavior right? So over the last few days, as our munchkin began repeating "I can't" for every request or command asked of her like a broken record, I was at a loss for words. Where is she learning this stuff? She's always been especially independent and head-strong, why on earth does she all of a sudden believe she can't do something? As the days progress, I try to ignore the bad behavior by redirecting her attention. Given she's determined when it comes to everyday tasks, I prefer her being assertive in her activities and around people, so there's no need to even give any more attention to the bad behavior.
Over the past week and a half or so as our daughter is waking up earlier and earlier, I found a few alternate cartoons to keep her preoccupied. I am not a morning person, so getting a few more Zzz's after Layla rises and shines at 6:00am is just what the doctor ordered. I prop her next to me with breakfast and cocoa, and as I slowly wake, I crack up laughing with her at Sponge Bob assaulting the octopus Squidward, and am amused as they verbally attack each other and another character argues about how she "can't" do something. HELLO Leslie!!! The lightbulb went off, because this is how Layla's learning the behavior, and it's all my fault! The irony of not realizing the garbage we watch as parents, and how our amusement at the behaviors in these shows, validates these bad behaviors to our children. If mommy thinks it's funny, then it must be okay. And while I do have a sick sense of humor and was always a fan of off-key shows, I now realize the err in my ways as it pertains to childrearing. Kids are truly sponges, and while we can't stop them from absorbing all the filth in this world, we can surely steer them away from it and towards absorbing the good. No more SpongeBob for my munchkin...at least not until she's older and her brain has gone back to remembering the good habits.
-Leslie Osmond
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